I think that's probably true. We definitely have different perspectives, which makes us unable to see what someone else might be seeing. I try to adopt the perspectives of others to see what they're seeing, but it just isn't always possible.
Oh god no, me either! That would be scary. I wonder what level of overlap actually allows for friendship? I’ve got a current friend who I’m really wondering about: the more I learn about him, the less I think we’re simpatico? And then there’s my wife. Half of what I love about her is that we see the world so differently, and yet on the deep important things, we’re totally in sync. Amy, I’ve taken over your comments section with my chatter! But I always feel like once you get this deep in a back and forth, we’re the only ones looking. It’s like having a conversation in a busy square: nobody pays you any attention.
It's totally fine, Tom! Very few people come to my comments section, anyway. I'm always happy to have a nice chat with you. I agree, when you have certain fundamental things in common, then the differences act as more of an enhancement. I don't think I'd like to hang out with a person who was exactly like me. That would be super boring. My husband and I are like you and your wife, I think. We share values, but we have completely different personalities, and that seems to work well.
Yeah, I think we’re all blind to something aren’t we?
I think that's probably true. We definitely have different perspectives, which makes us unable to see what someone else might be seeing. I try to adopt the perspectives of others to see what they're seeing, but it just isn't always possible.
I think that’s why it’s so nice when you find someone who sees the world the same way you do—it just feels like you understand them.
Well, I haven't yet met anyone who sees the world exactly like I do, but there are some who are much closer than others. : )
Oh god no, me either! That would be scary. I wonder what level of overlap actually allows for friendship? I’ve got a current friend who I’m really wondering about: the more I learn about him, the less I think we’re simpatico? And then there’s my wife. Half of what I love about her is that we see the world so differently, and yet on the deep important things, we’re totally in sync. Amy, I’ve taken over your comments section with my chatter! But I always feel like once you get this deep in a back and forth, we’re the only ones looking. It’s like having a conversation in a busy square: nobody pays you any attention.
It's totally fine, Tom! Very few people come to my comments section, anyway. I'm always happy to have a nice chat with you. I agree, when you have certain fundamental things in common, then the differences act as more of an enhancement. I don't think I'd like to hang out with a person who was exactly like me. That would be super boring. My husband and I are like you and your wife, I think. We share values, but we have completely different personalities, and that seems to work well.